Focus on yourself, not the opposite gender.
This applies to both boys and girls.
You might be saying, "Oh, but then what's the point of school?"
Darling, unless you're stupid, you and I both know very well you do not go to school every day on the off chance that your latest infatuation might confess their undying love for you.
School is a place for education and socialization. However, that socialization shouldn't include pining over somebody who isn't even a proper person in their own right yet.
Are they financially established yet?
What if they're not who you think they are?
What if you've become obsessed with a certain image of them, and not the real them?
You aren't even legally allowed to marry until you're eighteen. And you're telling me that you've planned out your fricking wedding? That you're ready to fall in love?
News flash: you're not.
Have you ever thought about how you seem to have had multiple 'crushes' in the past? What does that tell you about how capable you are of loving someone? I'm not saying teens can't love, but romantic love is different.
Think of it like a very deep ocean - you'll be told all about how deep it is, but you'll never actually process the intensity of it until later, when you can actually swim to its depths.
I'm not saying teenagers aren't emotionally mature at all, but the thing is, in a world with many betrayals, romantic love is something very valuable and rare. As children, we found it easier to love people in general, but as we grew and the betrayals ensued, we started to appreciate real, proper love more. And finding out what proper love is can be a lengthy process that most teens haven't even completed yet. The point is, you aren't mature enough yet for something as delightful and profound as romantic love. You will be, but now is not the time.
Human beings are like buildings. You'll start with a blueprint of how you want your building to be (usually your parents' job, but you can adjust it later as you grow), and then the actual construction starts.
Your foundation will be laid, which is your childhood phase.
Then the gray structure will start to form, which is your teenage phase.
Then comes painting, furnishing, polishing—all the things that make a building truly livable. And after that? Maintenance. Renovation. Growth.
Right now, you're in the process of forming your gray structure. You cannot love another building when both of you are unfinished constructions. Emotionally, academically, professionally, in literally all aspects. You are, however, capable of loving the ones who played a crucial role in your design, or will in the future, which is the basis of all sorts of love. So if you actually do want romantic love, you'll focus on finishing your building before falling in love. Because if you don't, both your buildings are more than likely to fall instead.
I hope this blog post reaches the eyes of the many teens in the world who need this. This is a message for all of you. Please, for all of our sakes, focus on yourself before focusing on others. You are the future of the world. Do not take that lightly. The world is counting on you.
Do not disappoint.
You are more than capable of making us all proud.
I believe in you.
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