Feminism is Overrated.

You probably read the title of this blog post and thought, “Is this (insert whatever compliment you'd like) crazy? She’s such an anti-feminist.”

Actually, I probably am.

Many are probably screaming their heads off right now (lmbo), but hear me out (and no, I’m not gonna show you some fictional guy’s picture or anything).

Here’s what I’ve noticed: in an attempt to promote 'feminism,' some women—whether intentionally or not—end up undermining men’s struggles. They often invalidate their pain, which doesn’t sit right with me. For example, there are situations where women expect men to pay the entire bill (personally, I prefer 50/50 because I want to prove my independence). Or there’s this attitude that goes something like, “I can totally understand if men had surgery on a private part while I had to deliver a child.” I’d beg to differ. Just because your pain was immense doesn’t mean that men don’t experience pain, too.

Let’s think about this: we all face struggles that are unique to us, and each one is valid. Whether you believe in God, Allah, the universe, or whatever higher power you turn to, the challenges we face are often ones we’re meant to handle in our own way. But just because your experience was difficult doesn’t mean it outweighs someone else’s. It’s like comparing equivalent fractions: they may look different, but they represent the same value. So, let’s stop comparing our struggles and giving one more weight than the other. This is a victim mentality, and neither you nor anyone else deserves to suffer because of it. You’ve got an entire life ahead of you—don’t spend it thinking, “Oh, the world’s out to get me, they’ll never understand my pain,” etc. Thing is, they may not fully understand your situation, but they will understand your pain, either now or later.

Now, I’m not here to dismiss feminism. Not at all. Feminism has done and continues to do significant work. But the term "feminism" often focuses solely on women’s issues, and I think it can alienate men’s struggles as well. Men face their own set of challenges. For example, if a man is sexually assaulted, he’s often met with comments like, “Oh, you’re lucky she wanted you.” That’s not okay either.

Here’s the thing: I think we need a more inclusive term for the fight for gender equality. Instead of “feminism,” let’s talk about "equalism." Equalism ensures that we don’t oppress either gender and validates the struggles both men and women face. And honestly, you’re victimizing yourself by saying, “Oh, we women are oppressed.” Stop it. You are not oppressed. You do not deserve to oppress yourself either.

Ultimately, it’s about acknowledging everyone’s pain and working toward equality for all—without leaving anyone behind.